“Online Pornography” Real Talk!

Hello All,

Thank you so much for your comments on this topic. Last week I got the opportunity to speak with my children on a one on one discussion at home. The topic was about sex, and might I say it was very interesting. I brought up the topic “Online Pornography,” and they looked at me as if they had seen a ghost.

I advised them no need to be afraid of answering the question because I’d rather speak to them about it than having someone else talk to them. To my surprise they confess to looking at pornography online, and I was elated at the fact that they were open and honest with me. I told them that they are young and it’s not to ever be looked at on any of the computers whether it’s at school, friend’s homes, or home.

However, I did let them know that I have looked at stuff like that too, but I am an adult and I am experienced and know what sex can do and not do to the body. I told them I am sort of like Elizabeth Gilbert who wrote Eat Love Pray. I have been practicing celibacy and I’d rather please myself until I am married.

I also advised them that they are way too young to even have this on their minds and besides hackers are on the prowl waiting to see young children in the nude. My computer has been hacked before, and a lot has crossed my mind whether or not my children were being seen during the time it went unnoticed. I believe the hackers were looking for me and wanted to expose me so I hope they focused on me, because really, I’m the one they are after not my kids.

However, school work should be first and when the time is right for them to engage in sexual activities they should be grown and in their own home. Must I say, I asked how they knew about these sites and to my surprise it came from their friends?

No, sex is not bad, but I had to let them know that pornography is lust, and I too had to ask for forgiveness, and so should they. One of them began to cry and said “I am going to hell!” I told the child no you’re not because God forgives.

Parents talk to your kids. We are adults so what goes on in your private life is just that “your private life” as long as it is not hurting any children. However make sure the child doesn’t find your private things or see you doing whatever you do in private because kids are curious, and they will for certain try what they see. Until next time, have a beautiful day.

The next topic will be on Lesbian and Gay pride. Although I am not and will never be a lesbian because I honor my religion, I do have gay male friends, and I think the next topic is something the world should get involved in and express how we feel.

Sincerely,

Angelique Lachelle Cooper